You’re right. We can’t help who we fall in love with. Love is a feeling and feelings can do all sorts of weird and wonderful things.

But.......

We CAN control how we act on our feelings.

Please, for your own preservation, do not contact this man with the intent of telling him how you feel.

If he cheats on her, he will cheat on you.

You don’t need to settle for second hand deals in relationships. He would be very low if he had this affair and you’d be dropping your standards.