Welcome to PC Denise!----you will find others to talk with here and some good articles in the resource section that are worth your time.
I agree with Crazy Hitch and DarrenPH---
You can have this feeling for someone else who is available. It may not feel that way now but it is true. And, the idea of picking up and noting his "faults" or things you think might "change" is good, he is just another person after all.
Think back to a young crush you had...this is a lot like that...you are projecting all kinds of qualities and interests onto someone you idealize. That passes.
Drama is highly overrated.
I don't know what your "situation" is but if it is work and you need to distance yourself do. You can do it without 'ignoring', stay cool, work focused and busy.
As for being a wife, I was married 20yrs but it would be my husband and not the woman I would be upset with...he's the one I have/had the relationship with. I have trouble with women blaming women for "their" s.o.'s behavior.