Gawd knows why, but I was just sitting here thinking about T and remembered when I first entered therapy I was struggling with intimacy with my hubbywubby and mentioned to T that my husband was going to be off the following week and as his been on nights for most of our married life, I felt there would now be pressure on me to have "intimate relationships" with him and this was causing me anxiety. I remember T sort of poo-pooing what I said and with a brush movement of her hand she said "oh just do some DIY" I said no more and too this day haven't told her of my mis-understanding thinking she meant to just let my husband sort himself out, ie, masterbation, rather then what she really meant which was, spend sometime together doing something like decorating to create the "feeling" lmao!!! I will have to tell her this when she reutrns, 4yrs off holding this secret is long enought lol