I think what I got from that artical the most, wasn't whether T is or isn't a good parent, its that I realised that I do infact have a "claim" on T like she said.. It always feels as If I am the ONLY one with the curiositys and envy that T's family have her and I dont', but reading about how the therapist child talks about her realising her mother also has an emotional interest in her patients/clients, opened up something for me....kinda like, yeah I do have some of T's time too...time she's with me... :-)