You seem to be very mature for your age. But I have to say I have gone through his before myself. I have always had crushes and have day dreamed of being with older men. I actually in my past after my first divorce acted on it (which I was 22-23 at the time) and dated an older man. But then I came to the conclusion that the reason I was wanting to be with older men was because "I' was lacking the father figure. I never had a male in my life growing up and I never thought it effected me until I found my self obsessing over older men, and the guy that I did date was 15 years older then me and our relationship started out just like dating until I noticed I was getting these feeling that I liked the comforting feelings he gave me like I was safe and when he would hold my hand I did get it right then!! I liked him holding my hand because I liked the way it made me feel like a little girl and her daddy! OHHHH, I had to run from that relationship so fast! I was looking for a daddy, and never even new it until after I was in that relationship. I would have never thought or known that before, but that relationship confirmed my loneliness and lacking emotions for a father.

So, I am not saying that this is the issue for you at all, but maybe there is something that you need or haven't had, and that for some reason you are directing your emotions and feeling for older men. And as for the women teacher, her kindness can put off a feeling of comfort for you, and you find that attractive. I have met women b4 and they have put off this kind, attracting, and warm side towards everyone, and she was just so very beautiful and comforting to be around.

I do think that because you are only 16, it's not safe for you to go on and act on your feelings for older men. But, you are at consenting age, and maybe you can try dating a man that is 3-4 years older and see how it makes you feel? There might be an answer in there somewhere!

I hope it all works out for you. If you have any questions, feel free to PM me.