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Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche
So, my mother's dementia is getting worse. Now, whatever she's watching on tv or reading she will call me multiple times a day and leave me voicemails about random things that make no sense at all.
It's very strange to experience this from the same parent who emotionally abused me growing up. It's giving me anxiety. The person she used to be is completely gone now; replaced by an elderly person with severe dementia.
Edit to add: my cell # is programmed into her phone. I'm thinking of having her phone disconnected so she won't be able to call me incessantly every day. Maybe this will make her leave her room for all the activities that happen in her memory care unit.
Can anyone relate to this?
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question if you disconnect her phone how is she going to be able to call 911 / emergency services if she falls, or gets lost, wanders, cant remember her own name, goes through the sudden blindness symptoms,
my point is by disconnecting her phone you could end up causing her to get seriously hurt in her state of mind.
maybe what we did for one of my relatives will help you. we contacted senior and disabled services for a day respite care option. this is where the relative with this is taken to a place to spend the day with people their own age and play cards, board games, and other activities while under supervision.
for night time relatives took turns spending the night, and when no relatives were available a private nurse or adult care provider was there. this way the relative was supervised and had company to sooth their loneliness and missing contact with other relatives that may be busy or not want to be bothered at the moment.
then when our relative became too mentally unstable, a nursing care facility was found. there they have the 24/7 supervision that they need and socialization with others their own age. and plenty to do in the community rooms, and special outings specifically with their needs in mind so that they can be out in the community but still be under supervision.
At first my relative fought the idea but over time this relative adjusted and they now think of the nursing facility as home.