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Originally Posted by Wounded Souldier
it is very difficult for me to see anything in black and white.
maybe i should be in the romantic relationship forum and not here. all the hiding and secrets were so uncharacteristic of any regular romantic relationship though and have caused me so much pain.
in my situation nothing whatsoever was romantic (not even in my thoughts) until a chance meeting a year after the end of the professional relationship. i found out he and his spouse were separated. everything changed for me in my perception of him. i started to talk to him like he was just a regular person. he still wanted to act like my therapist but i kept reminding him he was no longer in that role. i told him he was fired as my therapist. we became friends. on my initiative it became romantic. he was scared though about getting in trouble. we had to create a distance. that was a couple of years ago.
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I struggle occasionally with classifying my previous experience with a medical professional as abusive. However, sometimes things are black and white and abuse abuse, no matter how many caveats and exceptions you can describe. From reading your brief account, he knew he was behaving in an exploitative way. It was his responsibility to protect the boundaries of your relationship as well as to respect your wellbeing (even a year down the line after therapy has finished).
It's painful and confusing, keep posting here. People can help.