People ARE trying to support her, but no one here is going to encourage the OP to chase or pursue a married man, and everyone here is encouraging her to focus on other things and move on. Not only that, but to know and understand that a married man pursuing a woman outside his marriage cannot be trusted. People are trying to look out for her well-being in this situation. Nothing good can come of it. What else can we do?

I've had several married men chase me, and they all say the same things as this man. Things are rocky right now, I don't love my wife, my wife doesn't love me, I want to leave her. And what happened? They ALL stayed with their wives in the end. When something didn't happen with me, they most likely moved on to some other poor unsuspecting woman who would say yes to them.

And this man? Staying because of finances? Does his wife support him or the other way around? Seems like a similar type of excuse to not leave and to have sex or an affair with another woman, stringing her along, with no intentions of leaving.

It's far easier to have an affair and find women to have sex with than it is to leave your wife and go through a divorce where finances and children are involved.

People here are trying to warn the OP to protect her, and to imply differently is insulting.