I agree. This man has been hurtful and continues to be hurtful. Why he kept you away from his parents for 12 years is beyond me. He made you think that his parents didn't approve of you or like you? That makes very little sense IF he didn't have another woman or wife involved. It is hurtful to keep you away from meeting the most important people in his life like that. It is hurtful what he is doing to you now. I think because you were so emotionally and verbally abused most of your life, that you've been conditioned to accept poor treatment. And this man has not treated you all that well, ALL of this time. Yes you connected and may have felt a deep connection with him, but honestly, he has been and is continuing to be hurtful. Yes, he is troubled, and that is no excuse for his behavior and treatment of you.