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Originally Posted by bluekoi
My friend got one for her mom when she started calling at 2:00AM. My friend could still call her mom, but was now not waking up in a panic when the phone rang in the wee hours of the morning. My husband's dad has vascular dementia. 
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That is exactly why I need that phone you posted about. I have to turn my cellphone ringer off at night or it will ring when my mother calls. Sorry to hear about your husband's dad's vascular dementia too. That's what my mother has. God,I hope I don't get vascular dementia.
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Originally Posted by bpcyclist
I am so sorry you are dealing with this unbelievably triggering stuff. Do you have any old benzo prn's left over, maybe?
I do not. So, when I get anxious, I can only breathe my way out of it. So, practice your Thich Nhat Hanh or whatever other kind of breathing you prefer. It really, really can help!!!!
I don't have any real experience with this. My father probably has a little dementia, but he is still high-functioning, relatively speaking. I found this link for a few sites you might want to check out maybe. Maybe they can help you out with some ideas. Support Groups for Caregivers & Persons with Dementia / Alzheimer’s.
In the meantime, do something about her phone calling access situation, so she cannot keep torturing you.
I hope this gets better and soon, Blanche!!!!!! |
Thanks so much for that link bpcyclist! I will definitely go there for support regarding my mother's phone calls and dementia and how triggering it is for me.
I don't take medications anymore for my anxiety, so I will definitely restart the breathing meditation practice (which I never should have stopped in the first place).
I'm going to go visit her today and disconnect her phone. I know my sister will be mad and accuse me of stressing out our mother more. But she has dementia. She will forget she even has a phone.
Since my sister pays for our mother's phone service (the memory care unit requires everyone to pay for their own phone line but the cable tv is free), I have to tell her I'm getting rid of the phone in our mother's memory care room. My sister will also be upset but you know what, WHO CARES.