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Feb 24, 2020, 01:49 PM
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Originally Posted by Rose76
Thanks for the responses. I think you're probably right. No point rehashing the past.
I don't trust her. Maybe it's wise that I just keep it that way. I guess I was looking for a way to restore the trust I used to place in her. She's smug, self-righteous, inauthentic, opportunistic. Still, if I was in a jam, she'ld want to help me. I don't want her ever going out of her way for me. She isn't all that thrilled with how her life turned out. I suppose I just should accept that I will never feel too close to her. She can't change. Neither can I.
When my guy dies, she'll send me something and invite me to come stay with her. I won't have the time. I'll thank her and say I'll visit her another time. Then I just won't. She'll wonder why I keep my distance. I don't have to explain anything.
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I was going to say that you have every right to politely confront this if you so choose and ask what's the deal...but also, you have to weigh the cost/value of bringing it up and asking her about it. I'm sort of in the favor, for myself, of just bringing these things up with people and asking why all of a sudden I'm in their good graces again. But that's me. And certainly there are times when it's not worth it and say thanks and move on. I think this is one of those times. Unless you have any desire to be closer to your sister, I'd let sleeping dogs lie and just thank her for the gift and leave it be. However, if she wants to be closer to you, then a conversation needs to happen.
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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