Forgive me. It’s just hard to interpret your true intentions based on some of your posts. You had stated earlier if it’s meant to be you’ll make sure everyone is cared for. Which comes across a certain way. You had also stated you’re worth more and are in love with him. That made it sound like you’re competing with his wife. If you truly don’t intend on meddling then tell him so, if you must talk to him, and walk away... and if you truly intend on not meddling, you can wait until the day he files for divorce to do anything or to be involved with him in any way. Even then I'd proceed with caution. People can file and change their minds.