There is plenty of research demonstrating that comparing and judging is what people do, all people. The last time my T said "no judgment", I called him on it. He had to agree that judgment occurs, but he likes to call it "processing" and said it does not imply anything negative. T says the problem is that we assume a judgment of badness.
Call it what you like, in my opinion, Ts are only human and yes, they judge; they just don't verbalize their judgments. And I guess I'll give them this - they are probably less likely to judge negatively than many, probably because they've heard it all!
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