ItÂ’s not a great situation guys I feel sick about writing it down. But yeah IÂ’ll do my best to give you all the full perspective.

My partner was married before me, bit of a difficult situation and he had a hard time throughout it all. He had gotten this woman pregnant when he was very young, and stayed with her because he thought it was the right thing to do. A lot of pressure in to marriage which eventually he went though with.. Cue an emotionally and eventually physically abusive relationship. SheÂ’s not a very nice woman at all (not just through what heÂ’s told me, sheÂ’s well known and a nightmare) very immature and manipulative. She was a lot older than him, already had children. Past history of a series of engagement to young men (he was 20 at the time). He told me at the start that he had felt trapped, he was not good mentally, had list a lot of weight, got to the point where he wanted to end his life. She was very cruel to him, it showed in what friends and family have told me before we got together, how she is now with her own child and how jumpy and fussy he is now over trying to please me as a partner presently - He had very low self esteem when we met and he literally jumps through hoops for me. Its been hard to see a man like that, he was truly grounded down - constantly fearful of tea wasnÂ’t cooked right or he did the washing wrong etc at the beginning but heÂ’s much better and confident in himself now. We have been working on his self esteem and both of our growths and fears over the past year whilst we have been together. ItÂ’s been truly a magical year, lots of lessons and tears on both parts that we have a found a decent partner in each other.

Me and my partner met under similar circumstances, we was both coming out of abusive relationships and had a lot in common. I was on the back end of mine. He was separated from wife for a year. Very nasty end to it all, he was only married for a few weeks before he She tried taking his daughter off him so heÂ’d been through the works before he met me, but was in a much better place.

Anyway, I found out last week that he had some inappropriate contact with a woman online when he was with her. The shock fell that it was a few weeks before his wedding. Dug deeper, and found out it wasnÂ’t just some woman, it was one of his wives friends. I was gutted heÂ’d do something so low. She had sent him a picture of him in her underwear and he had responded over a series of days

Obviously I felt absolutely sick by this, not just the fact he was deceptful to her, I have been in a horrible place in a relationship before and ashamed to admit the fact I have cheated once in the past. I do understand it when you are in a desperate position and I have learned and growed from it myself. It was who it was with I couldnÂ’t get my head around.

Anyway, I had evidence that there had been nothing but passing pleasantries since the incident a few year ago, and I briefly remember him mentioning this women months back when talking about the past that she used to post revealing pics on her social media etc so I was happy that he hasnÂ’t been even a hint of unfaithful whilst heÂ’d been with me.

However when I confronted him and asked him to tell me everything, he admitted he ‘may have responded’ and paid her a compliment over her pictures, he admitted that he was flattered by the attention as he had never had any at home but he didn’t admit until a day later that they were messaging back and forth with this woman over a series of days