I am 30 and he’s 28. We’re still young now!

The incident in question happened 2 and a half years ago, right before he married. He walked out a few weeks after and ended it.

He told me he shouldn’t have gone through with the marriage and he deeply regrets the whole thing. I am close to his cousin who told me before we started seeing each other that there was something very odd about the whole thing, the wedding was weird she said. He was crying the whole day.

At the time as well he had received messages off her friend (a different friend) saying that she was cheating on him. He stood by his wife and believed her. He believes now he was blinded by this and is pretty sure she was going behind his back and it wasn’t the only time.

On the night of the wedding at the reception his wife also locked herself in her and his hotel room with a male friend and refused to come out. He’d suspected some deceptiveness with this male friend of hers for some time before this incident.

The bridesmaids all took his side when they split. None of them speak to her now.

It’s a whole big mess and a shite situation really. He’s recovered from not only having a failed marriage so young but the aftermath from abuse. But what he did wasn’t right and it never will be.

I know that I’m not obliged to accept his past. But at the same time I’d like to be a partner who can give him what he needs and deserves going forwards. My heart aches for him but it hurts for myself too.

We was saving for a home for us and both of our girls. I told him yesterday at this moment in time I would not sign a contract with him for this. It cut him deep, he’s been working so hard to give me everything I need, and everything we need in life as a family but he could not give me what I needed at the time I asked him to disclose this information. I feel really lost and stuck