</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Perna said:
Asking for and expecting a simple, pleasant reply would be a big thing for me.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">
I have reached the point where if I really need to get some stuff out of my head I am comfortable emailing my T. However, I have not gotten myself to the point that I would feel comfortable asking for a reply. I would mentally beat myself up for the next week for that. I would also drive myself nuts checking for a reply every two minutes.

Mouse, maybe it would make you feel a little better by reaching out and just sending a quick "thinking of you" or "hope you are enjoying ..Bangkok" message without expecting a reply. Then if you don't get one you won't feel slapped.

My oldest son (11 yr) is very affectionate and wants random hugs and cuddles all the time. In the summer, I was traveling for a week for school. Out of the blue he would randomly send me a phone pic message of himself. When I asked him, "what was that about?" He simply said, 'I was thinking of hugging you, but you weren't here, so I sent you my picture instead.' I said, "I liked getting the pictures, did it help you feel any better?" He simply said, 'yep!' He was sending the pictures for his own benefit, and freely admitted it. Sometimes he just amazes me. He knows what he needs and simply asks for it or finds a way to meet it himself. I can learn a lot from him.