What brought me to this forum is that I have a male friend, whom I believe has BPD, who has been making an assumption that I am his GF. In the last few months he has been exhibiting extreme jealousy if I so much as talk with or meet with another guy. He has become controlling and possessive to the point that it is unbearable. I told him that I feel more like property than person and that I do not have the emotional depth to continually feed his ravenous and ever increasing emotional hunger. Thank you for sharing that as I found it difficult to comprehend his emotional needs. Before reading many of these posts and understanding what was going on, I initially empathized and gave into his demands for more and more and more of my time and attention as he "had no one", had an unstable home environment and would make threats of self harm when I wanted to go. My empathy turned into resentment and outright rebellion where I started to provoke his jealous response. Finally, with some understanding, I hope to set boundaries and help him to regulate his jealousy and emotional outbursts. Still, the behavior is exhausting and my empathy is drained, but I don't want to hurt him or see him hurt himself.