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Originally Posted by lady411
He said he placed the cameras when he left to work out of state for 3 days. I asked if he thought I would cheat on him. It’s just a complete lack of trust. Recording our sex would not have been an issue if he had told me about it right after. But this camera has been there for weeks already. I asked him if he would’ve told me but he obviously waited until or hoped I wouldn’t find it.
I am aware it is abuse. Sadly I don’t think he is aware of that. All the other abusive incidents we’ve encountered have never been abusivo according to him. I can go to a family members house. My parents have told me that their house is open anytime for me. But I’m just not sure if I want to involve the family.
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Understand that abusers will NEVER admit to abuse. They will outright deny it until the cows come home, so there is NO sense in trying to confront them with the abuse or tell them they are in fact, abusive. It won't change a single thing and it will NOT change their mistreatment of you or their bad behaviors.
I think you should take your family's offer and go stay with them. That's a gift, to be able to rely on family as such. Don't feel guilty...... that's what family is for. To take care of each other, and most especially in times of trouble and need.
That's what I would do. I am very glad that you do see this is abuse.