I’m so sorry you are going through this, it was awful to read.

So not only has he physically harmed you twice over , he had tried to make it seem like it is your fault and that you brought it on, but he’s also illegally breached your personal privacy by spying on you AND made an excuse as to why it’s justifiable?

I don’t think a marriage can survive that, because it is not a marriage.

Please have a think about taking the next steps for your children’s sake, you said you know he won’t hurt you at this moment in time but he will do again. You know this.

What is he like with the children?