Have Hope, I have to mention that as I’m reading your response it makes me think of the same words my husband’s mother used when she expressed why she stayed with my husband’s father for so many years even after all the verbal/physical abuse, black eyes/bruises, drug abuse, cheating, etc. She just wanted what she thought what was best for her kids: to grow up in a home with a mother and father. I don’t want to make the same mistake she made. I want to raise my kids in a home without violence and abuse. But I will not go down without a fight. I will do everything in my power to save this marriage, not just sit around and hope for it to grow and improve.