I just wanted to say Tisha that you are dealing with three different generations and that means three different generational messages that can have some very different ideals and values. You have some baggage from your mother's generation, then you have your own generation that was affected by your mother's generation that your generation wanted to change. Now you are dealing with your son's generation and what that generation is choosing to do that is going to actually be different from not only your generation but your mother's generation that you grew up in as well. What you consider insults and humiliations may be due to just how different your son's generation actually does things that can be starkly different than customary in your generation. There may actually be NO traditional in how YOU consider traditional protocals. Your son will be looking to fit in with his piers just as you had yourself at his age. This can be a bit painful and it's normal for a parent to wonder what they did wrong and why the distancing. Also, it's actually pretty normal for a son to distance from his mother when he falls for a woman who now wants him to follow HER needs and desires. So a mother has to learn how to understand that her son is really no longer "hers" but he has been drawn to another woman. There is a bit of a loss to grieve when that happens.