He has harmed me more than twice. Since before we even got married almost 5 yrs ago.
Personal privacy? I have none. He goes thru my phone periodically and will question me when I step out of the house for anything more than picking up the girls from school or getting groceries.

I have a lot to think about. But i I will do it with a sound mind and a broader perspective.

He is a great father to all four of our kids... when he is around because he works many long hours.