Thanks for sharing your concern. (By the way, I'm a life-long home bread baker. And several years ago I had the opportunity to study professional bread baking with 2 French master bakers. So I know quite a bit about the process.) I don't really have anything in the way of advice to offer you beyond saying that, at least from my perspective, it is really important to find some sort of occupation you like. In my case, I spent a lifetime doing work I hated & for which I was poorly suited. So I know something about what living like that can do to a person.

When I graduated from high school, many years ago, I got myself into college. Back then the common wisdom was just go to college, it didn't matter what you studied, you'd be set for life. (What a falsehood that was.) I've often thought that, if I had it to do over again, I'd enroll in a two-year technical college in a course of study that would provide me with saleable work skills of some sort. Then, I'd go out & find employment in my chosen field. And if I wanted to get a 4 year degree or beyond I would do it part-time while I was working. At least that's what sounds like a preferable idea to me at this late stage in life. (Of course, since I don't have to do it, it's easy to muse regarding what I would do if...)

You mentioned your mom threatening not to pay for your college expenses. I have to say that, when I was young, there was no expectation that parents would pay for their children's college educations. (At least that was the way it was in my case.) When I went to college there was no question who was going to pay for it. It was me. So I worked & took out student loans which I didn't finally get paid-off until I was into my 40's. Of course the downside of that is I had to be responsible for myself. However the good part of it was I had only myself to answer to. When one's parents are footing the bill for one's college education, it seems to me at least, that circumstance creates something of an obligation, on the part of the student, to allow the parent to take some interest in the student's success, or lack thereof. I don't know if having your mother paying for college is a good idea or not. But I do think it creates something of an entitlement for her to have some say in how you proceed that would not be there if you were making your own way, so to speak.

Anyway... these are my thoughts with regard to your post. (Whether or not any of my ramblings are of any consequence is another matter.) To me, if you're passionate about baking, that may well be the way to go. Perhaps, though, before you attempt to dive into starting your own bakery, what might make sense would be to try to get some education in professional baking & small business management? Just a thought. Good luck with this, though, however you decide to proceed.