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Originally Posted by lady411
I hope you understand that I wasn’t raised to just give up on marriage on a whim. There has only been three divorces in the past 4 generations of my entire family. Before I got married to my husband I was the only single mom in my family. I know I will change. I hope that he changes. But if he doesn’t then that will determine a lot of our future.
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I’d not refer to your situation as “giving up on marriage on a whim”. You are degraded and mistreated for years with kids seeing it. Including physical abuse. It’s not the same as giving up on a whim.
Giving up on a whim would be leaving a spouse because one got bored or their spouse didn’t fold the laundry or they had one argument.
Not saying you have to leave your spouse but it would be leaving because of repeated abuse and not on a whim. I don’t believe anyone is raised to just leave marriage on a whim. Escaping abuse and leaving for mundane lack of commitment to marriage isn’t the same thing.
I think it’s a great thing to not have divorces in the family because people marry good partners and right marches, not because people simply tolerate abuse.
It’s good you have hopes. Sadly you already gave him many opportunities to change yet he never did. I hope you don’t endanger yourself and children by staying in hopes he changes.