Wow. Well first, welcome to the forums. I come and go....and I'm glad to hear you are finding being a member beneficial. In addition to this one, there are support forums for "friends and family of..." If you haven't checked those out, I'd recommend them. They might be helpful to you, since you seem to be willing to continue interaction with your friend. Having BPD, I know I've made it incredibly difficult for those around me, my own family and friends, at times.