You didnt trigger me.

It sounds like the song Cat's in the Cradle. Your son is offering you the same kind of conditional love his parents offer him.

Feelings arent facts, remember? Thats what it FELT like to you guys. Okay.

I dont understand why he is standing on your neck now? What else does he want? He asked for something, you said no. You asked for something, he said no. Sounds even to me! Neither of you can go back in time. My parents never apologized to me, and i never much apologized to them. I did what i had to do. Of course, my family is not the ideal standard here!

Thats why i think family counseling. What is the goal here? Sunday brunch once a month until the grandkids come? Then babysitting?