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Originally Posted by unaluna
You didnt trigger me.
It sounds like the song Cat's in the Cradle. Your son is offering you the same kind of conditional love his parents offer him.
Feelings arent facts, remember? Thats what it FELT like to you guys. Okay.
I dont understand why he is standing on your neck now? What else does he want? He asked for something, you said no. You asked for something, he said no. Sounds even to me! Neither of you can go back in time. My parents never apologized to me, and i never much apologized to them. I did what i had to do. Of course, my family is not the ideal standard here!
Thats why i think family counseling. What is the goal here? Sunday brunch once a month until the grandkids come? Then babysitting?
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I would love to all go to counseling to try to work this out. We want to occasionally hear how he is, maybe occasionally have a visit. That’s all we ever expected from a married son. He wants nothing to do with us and ghosts our texts or calls. His attitude is hateful. He wants us to demean ourselves and ‘learn our lesson’ (as he says). It’s really weird. I feel it is really more ways to keep us far from his life because his wife wants it that way.
At this point, we get it, we’re accepting of that. We’re just really sad and mourning the loss of our beloved son. We are staying hopeful that some day he will change his tune.