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Mar 01, 2020 at 09:31 PM
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Originally Posted by Rustyfinger
Hi, I wasn't sure of starting this thread here or at the Psychotherapy forum
What do you think about your T's body language? I didn't know that this was a thing until recently. A different T, that I was seeing for a time, told me about it
Last session, mine seemed a little impatient. She was sitting on a desk in front of me with arms crossed, her legs also crossed and her feet pointing away from me. When I was reading something to her, I looked at the ground. She was rocking her foot back and forward, as in "I can't wait for him to finish". I was talking and she cracked her fingers. I don't remember what I was telling her at that moment. I noticed and she, after that, caressed her fingers without cracking them. Also, she brushed her hair with her fingers. She usually does this 2 or 3 per session, but on this one, she was doing it more frequently.
I was googling up every gesture. To sum it up, all are negative gestures. I know that they can't be taken in a isolate way. There seems to be a cluster of them, from my point of view, at least.
I don't know what to think about it. Maybe she just had a long bad day. Maybe she finds to be a drag seeing me so late and wants to go home. Or she got tired of me. Especially, knowing how I feel about her. I'm not sleeping so well and I get tired after work, but I make an extra effort to attend my sessions. Maybe I'm just tired and looking too much into things.
Could she got tired of me? Maybe I should ask her what is happening? There are some days when I feel this " weird vibe" from her. I don't how to put it in words
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Can you ask her about it? Is it possible you are misinterpreting cues and body language?
It happens. When I first started seeing T, I asked her a question and her hand went to her throat. I told myself, ‘See, this is what happens. I’m *too much* for her....’
The subject came up sessions later and she explained she was just *thinking* how to answer me. After a few other similar situations I realized I stink at reading other people’s body language or at guessing what they are thinking.
I assume I know what it is...or what it means. I’m wrong a lot.
Please ask your T about her gestures, etc. Let her know what you are seeing and what you fear they mean. She might not even be aware of them.
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