@lady411,

Honey, that is exactly what the abusive person wants you to believe. That somehow you deserved the abuse, that you provoked it and that it's your fault.

You are conditioned to believe these things most falsely, probably because he blames you for his abusive behaviors. He probably .tells you he wouldn't hit you unless you provoked him.

You must understand that in no way shape or form does anyone deserve to ever be hit in a relationship -- not even once. Even if you did provoke him or anger him, that does not excuse the behavior or justify him hitting you. Do you understand?

I don't know how many times I can say this to you.. he will not change.

You are in a trap in your own mind, and only you can free yourself from your own false beliefs. Everyone here is encouraging you to leave, and is saying the same things as I am.

Your therapist will encourage you to leave as well.

Please call a women's abuse victim's hotline. I called one when I was being severely abused, and it literally saved my life.

Here's the national domestic abuse website and hotline number:
National Domestic Violence Hotline | Get Help Today | 1-800-799-7233

1-800-799-7233.