Hugs to you, Roxanne. I can be a doormat many times so I really empathize. Both with my SO and at work. People say I'm a pleaser and I go out of my way to do things for people which often puts a big fat target on my back. I do have breaking point where I rebel and get passive-aggressive. I had to learn to stop that cycle before it got to that point. In a rather funny episode in my life, a good friend taught me the palm out, head wriggle, "oh hell no" technique and made me practice it. It works a lot better than the passive-aggressive cycle. But, I have to admit, the passive-aggression did make for some hilarious stories.

I knew I had turned a corner when someone took over a project that I had worked on for a long time, did some incredible things and worked ridiculous hours on and got nothing. One of the new project managers came to me and said that a new thing had come up and it was going to be a lot of work and that I had done so much on it before (hint hint, do it again, Alice). I was in a new position that required my full attention, but I let her go on for a while, telling me all about it. Then, I told her, "yup, that's a lot of work. I don't envy you. Good luck with that." I broke eye contact, walked away and felt dang good I wasn't a doormat.

Hugs and blessings to you!