((Jacq))) thank you, you kind person you.. i am mindful of a good friend...

((BB))) thank you for your caring thoughts BB... it is good to see you...

((muffy)) i am breathing hon, thank you LM

((LadyM))) so right you are, that life is unpredictable... i imagine a very good master to be capable of very great deeds, and predictability definitely would be one they practiced... i bet one could get very good at it : )

i worked at it awhile and found that my anger is always caused when i am in emotional pain first... the anger comes quickly after a slow build up and then when it is released, i have a rush of emotion and thought that i cannot remember in chronological order afterwards..

for me, i have been able at times to use the flashpoint, the moment between emotional pain and anger, as a sort of 'navigating' point..like i slow down my thoughts...

it takes concentration and practice, but i get that rush of thoughts to slow down and i can make my reaction to the thing that triggered me change..... i have to make my thoughts go pretty slow, but its getting better with practice...

when i can do that, i can look at the thing that caused me the emotional pain... i can avoid the irrationality of free anger... and i can remember what it was that disturbed me in the first place, which allows me to work on the details of that particular issue... i'm learning too..

im not sure if any of that is useful to you... i hope some little part might be...

im wishing the best for all of you...

thanks for caring