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Originally Posted by lady411
I can’t duel on past mistakes. I can only move forward from my present circumstances. I gotta say Divine, I’m not digging your negativity. But I have nothing but love for your honesty. I have no intention of separating my children from their father. He shares joint custody with his oldest daughter (age 11) and there haven’t been any issues as far as abuse. I cannot predict his future behavior so my actions on all these predictions of yours will have to wait.
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I am realistic rather than negative.
I’d love to have positive thinking about your situation but it’s not easy as what you described isn’t positive.
As about custody I am not saying he shouldn't see them but being alone with them full time or 50/50 might not be the best. He gets in vicious fights with you about his daughter and mundane things like bed time and yelling obscenities at you in his daughters presence. He might do the same with all three and you won’t be there to prevent it. It can’t be good fir the kids.
Plus if he smokes weed all evening he is likely high a lot so that’s why he might be getting out of control. I’d be concerned that he’d be alone with the kids possibly high and become abusive verbally or otherwise. Or get a new girlfriend and abuse her in kids presence.
It’s not negative. It’s realistic. It’s not a prediction. Sadly that’s how things work. I just want you to be aware how things might play out if you have no documented evidence of his behaviors.
Trust me I’d love to be optimistic and positive about the future. But I am not naive. I wish you the best in
this and I’d be excited to hear about big positive changes in your marriage.