Hi Puzzclar,

I think it so admirable that you strive to improve yourself. I can only look up to you for that.

Maybe I am wrong, but I don't think "empathy" or "confidence" are all-or-nothing things. They seem to constitute a continuum with various grades of more or less.

It could be that you possess more confidence and empathy than either you or your mentor are aware of. Knowing oneself or someone else can take a long time.

I wish I could offer you some wisdom, but sadly I lack a good deal of insight into the matters you are concerned with.

Hopefully you will find answers to the important questions you ask. I wish you only good things. -- Yaowen