@lady411,

I agree with Divine that your thinking is that a magician will make your husband stop hitting and abusing you.

Since you are God believing, God has no power over free will of humans. Therefore, your husband has free will and God cannot interfere with that. Please know this.

There is no magical formula that will change this man's behaviors towards you. No amount of reasoning, begging, pleading, prayers or anything else will change him, especially since he thinks therapy is a joke. So even that won't help.

What scares and worries me tremendously is that you seem to not be listening at all to the advice, wisdom and warnings that are given to you in this thread that every member has given you -- from many members who have also been abused in relationships.

What also concerns me is that your love for this man seems to be FAR more important to you than your children's well-being and overall welfare. He hit you while you were pregnant and holding a child in your arms, and you didn't call the police, pack your bags and run like the dickens? It's really hard to wrap my brain around.

I'm sorry to say this and this may sound harsh, but you're being very stubborn about wanting to keep this marriage together for the sake of keeping a marriage together, and you're being most stubborn in thinking that all of this magically will resolve itself, improve and change for the better.

I apologize for sounding harsh. I do have empathy for you because I, too, have been abused many times over -- never hit - but severely abused in every other way. I ran from one man, literally, for my own safety and well-being. So I have been there and done that. That's why its frustrating to watch you stay and remain with this most abusive man, at all costs, to the detriment of yourself AND your children.

And trust me, it will only get worse from here.

So what will it take to leave him? When you can't hide the bruises, the pain, the tears and the suffering anymore from your children? What will it take?

Statistically, abuse escalates and worsens over time, the longer the victim stays. Please educate yourself on abusive relationships and the realities of them. And that's the direction you're headed in.