I talked with a very old friend (of decades) today...from out-of-state.


I don't know when she got so toxic. All of her family relationships are so problematic I could not relate. I have let go of negative family members and only relate to those who are sensitive, smart, and sweet.


What I think has happened is this. Back in the day I was more a victim in relationships than now. So I think we complained together about how others offended us.

I think maybe I have outgrown the victim mentality and that's why I can't relate to her anymore. She seems stuck.


After the phone call I felt extremely agitated. I asked myself, "What just happened?" because she seemed to be ranting uncontrollably.

Maybe I have outgrown the friendship. I don't remember her being like this in the past.