(((lady411))), just wanted to say that I understand all of what you are reading is a "lot" to take in. And I think you KNOW something is wrong, and I think you were looking for someone to tell you how you can fix it so you can have that same committment your parents had and their parents had. It's normal to want a relationship to thrive and last. That is what someone wants when they walk down that isle and commit to a marriage. Relationships are a challenge, couples disagree and argue, yet when someone is concerned like you are when you started this thread, then it's time to sit and REALLY look at it and be honest if you are only "just" surviving in your relationship OR are you thriving.