Sometimes, if a man is sat down with someone, even man to man and talks about the cycle of abuse and how it has to stop and why, a man MAY be receptive. My concern is that you expressed he did not have a desire to see anyone. Sometimes, a man engages in a pattern because that's what was the example they had to go by and they really don't realize how they are repeating that bad behavior. Sometimes, they MAY want to put in a genuine effort to change a bad pattern. This can ONLY be fixed IF your husband is really willing to look at what he is doing and WANTS to change it. Sometimes, the man simply is not interested AT ALL.