Also 99% of abusers will NOT admit they are in fact abusive and are causing problems in the relationship. Most will 100% and adamantly DENY the abuse, they turn it around on the victim to make it so the victim is responsible or to blame for the abuse.... most explode in anger and rage at the mere suggestion of abuse, and the victim is to pay the price for even suggesting it. Most abusers will never seek help or therapy. That's the reality. And most, if they DO go to therapy, turn it all around on their victims, confusing the therapist. That's exactly what my sister's abusive husband did to her in therapy. Therapy was a waste of time, and she divorced him. Also as a result of the abuse she suffered living under the same roof as him, she became anorexic.

Health suffers, everyone's health suffers.

Please just leave this man. I do not understand the reasoning for holding on or for trying to change him.