I agree with Lizardlady, and my concern has been that you may get overwhelmed by the strong messages here and run instead of sitting and listening and coming to your own conclusion.

Sometimes a person actually "loves" their husband even though he can behave abusively. It can take time to sit and really sort it all out. I think that is where you are at this point, you are sitting and thinking this all through. It's not always something that is a "quick hurry up" decision. None of us here can push you either, this is something YOU have to decide.