Yes, no one here can push the OP this is true, yet members here who know what they're talking about when it comes to abuse should speak up and give her the facts of the matter.

And the fact of the matter is , my sister stayed FAR too long in her abusive marriage, she became anorexic and manic as a result, her mental health deteriorated as did her health, and her 3 kids all suffered the consequences and have to be in therapy. One of them treats little girls exactly as his father treated his mother - with cruelty. He is belittling and mean to young girls and he is only 13 years old. This is all because she stayed for years hoping it/he would change. And of course he did not change.

And what happens to young kids who witness abuse in addition to the mother who takes it, who stays and who seems to allow it to happen because she stays? They become very angry, bitter children full of rage and hatred, they act out, and they mirror and mimic their parents' behavior.

Know what else happens? They grow up to be misogynists, or men who hate women. They resent and become angry with the mother for allowing the abuse. All too often, young boys who witness their fathers abusing their mothers become abusive misogynists themselves, mirroring their father. These are the facts.

I may come on strong on here, .but I have strong convictions about this topic, and my aim is to protect her children from further harm as well as herself from further harm.