I’ve been dealing with erotic transference issues with my T for about three months. It’s been an up and down experience. I began noticing countertransference from her nearly from the start, but when I raised it with her (we discuss my transference openly) she became a combination of stonewalling and denying, almost to the point of gaslighting me by denying things I know she said.

Anyway, the twisted thing about it is that her behavior is eliciting fantasies that she’s manipulating me — and these fantasies are a major turn on. I feel like I’m falling very deeply down a rabbit hole and worry about what she might do with the power she has over me. She’s already demanded that I quit my group therapy because she didn’t like the competition with the group therapist. Where will she go next?