(((lady411))) he doesn't want to be called out.

Actually, I just came across a very good article that may help you think about this challenge in a different light or even maybe learn some ways of at least communicating on "his" level as I don't think he is going to change to be honest. Anyway, it's a good article and worth the read.

Not Every Selfish Person You Know Is a Narcissist—Here Are the Actual Traits