Not at all. I'm happy to let people be whomever they want to be. I generally feel that people must realize their own mistakes and learn from them and/or choose their own paths. I, too, am happy to lend support, though.

I will say that if I see someone blatantly making a mistake (going down a dangerous road), I try to warn them. I don't see that as being a "fixer", though. I try to share some of what I've learned, when applicable and hopefully appropriate.

In my marriage, there have been teeny weeny things that bugged me about my husband, but I've learned to laugh about them. There's more for him to tolerate in me, and yet he always says I'm perfect. Actually, he's perfect in my eyes, too.

My father has always had some behavior that was less than ideal. I won't say I haven't told him about it and warned him about ramifications. He barely listens, though, or will one moment and then does a 180. He has also been exploited by people he calls "friends". Folks, he will end up inadvertently killing himself because of alcohol, or being exploited even more, if he doesn't get proper support and go down a better path. And by "support", I'm not talking enabling. If he does insist on going down a self-destructive path, I will have to stay away for my own well-being. I've warned him about that. It will be horrible if that comes to pass, because I love my father dearly. My warnings do seem to get through to him more than the ones from my siblings, but not fully. I wish I could offer him more, but I can only manage so much.