I'm a helper and an supporter, but I have learned that being a fixer doesn't work and isn't typically healthy. I used to try to fix and protect everyone around me, ever since I was a child. I would try to fix my family for example. I have had to give back the responsibility to others. I also learned from being close friends with a bit of a fixer/controlling person that it can actually be a bit harmful if you're overbearing with it. Like she would try to tell me what to do for even little things and it started to make me feel like I couldn't do anything right. Maybe that was more controlling/worrying behavior than fixing, but I did decide that empowering and supporting people while they work to fix themselves is a better approach then taking on that responsibility for others.
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