My husband and I were friends for years before we decided to take the leap , we both were worried about losing our friendship.

He was very protective of me when we were just friends.

When it became more ? It’s like a switch was flipped. He went into over drive. I was dealing with a lot of junk mentally, getting out of a abusive relationship, recent hysterectomy because of cancer, still struggling with losing my dad. Yeah lotta crap.

It wasn’t that I wasn’t ready for our relationship..... he just tried to “ fix” everything. He just was smothering me. I know he did it out of love.

I had no choice but to tell him we needed a break. The thing we feared the most happened. We still talked often, he did realize what he did, about 3 months later I said .. okay Amanda and I are going to the Zoo see you there. We just resumed our relationship after we acknowledge what caused the problem.

Men in general are “ fixers”

He stills tries to fix things but I’ll remind him he’s not my T or he will say .. ok shutting up lol .. but I’m here and give me a hug.

I try to help people .. I can’t fix anyone. No one can fix anyone but themselves.