Well yes we all want to keep drama out of our lives but sometimes it just is what it is and we need to just kinda suck it up and count the days or hours until you can leave...

Of course your husband should be stopping them treating you poorly.. but maybe he is aware how sick they are and could be thinking they wont be around much longer, no it doesnt make it right but hes probably stressing like you are but showing or reacting differently..

I know that you struggle to see a woman being talked to with little to no respect.. You are so awesome here giving people advice to improve there relationships .. If his mom and dad are old and frail .... shes come to terms with how he treats her.... shes not gonna pack up and leave at this late stage.. All your doing is banging your head into a brick wall..

I had a Aunt and Uncle that had no problems arguing in front of others ,,, Ugh Id never have a disagreement with my husband in front of family nor friends .. I literally said okay Im gonna take a walk while you guys sort this out .. Id grab my husbands hand and say we will be back .... and we took a walk ..

Can you and your husband schedule a couple hours here or there,, go out for a coffee or whatever .. Will give you something to look forward too... Like OMG they are driving me crazy .......but X hours ill be able to escape for a bit .. I dunno its almost always worked for me when Im stuck in a situation that I know is going to end ..