I'm trying to work on my main issues in my life, but feel that somehow they must all be connected to one thing. Or can you have two or more different root causes that cause specific behaviours? It'll probably be easier to explain my main issues and where i think they come from.

1. Social anxiety - i think this is my biggest problem to date, and the most rehabilitating. It isn't just social anxiety with everyone, but specific sets of people - certain co-workers (intimidating ones), people who i think are better/more normal than me but the main one is partners friends and family.

I think the underlying cause of the anxiety here is the need to be approved of and liked. I don't particularly feel i have low self-esteem but i guess i must do if i worry about impressing people so much?

2. Jealousy - when i am in a relationship i feel very easily jealous and possessive. I see almost every other woman as a potential threat.

I think the underlying cause here is that i want to be the main object of my partner's desires and no one else. I want their attention completly, but i don't really get jealous when they hang out with family and friends, just other females, so i guess it is more about feeling like i will lose them. Could this also have something to do with low self-esteem? Or feeling like i need to control my other half?

3. Catastrophizing - i do find my mind always does go to the worse case scenario a lot. No matter what it is. If someone hasn't messaged me back, often i will assume that they have been in an accident or something.

I think the underlying cause here is that i'm worried about a sudden change to my life negatively that would cause some upheaval and change. I this a lack of control?

So i'm trying to piece together the one central reason for all the above and i'm not quite finding it. I feel that control and being afraid to lose control in my life is a biggie, and could relate to these three topics. But the social anxiety i think is more than about control, it's about being liked. I've always been a people pleaser too.

If anyone has any ideas of where i run with this information that has taken a while to uncover and where next i should go that would be most appreciated!

Thank you x