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Mar 08, 2020, 10:02 PM
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Originally Posted by NeedHelp104
Hi.
I'll try to shorten this up best I can. My cousin and I live far away (she lives in Miami, I live in L.A.). She came up to L.A. I was so happy, and she visited me frequently and we would text each other often and it seemed like we developed a strong bond. This continued for about a year. However, she decided to move back to Miami for her career 6 months ago. Since then, she barely responds to my messages or anything. i'd have to text her 5 or so times for her to respond and I find it apparent she does not want to interact with me. I once texted her and said I needed to talk to her asap for advice and I never got a response. I feel like she only talked to/visited me in L.A. because she knew no one else while she was here. Currently, she goes on vacations, etc. and it's like how do you NOT have the 10 seconds in your day to write me back? My new years resolution is to cut people out of my life who use me and don't want anything to do with me. I plan on giving up and if she texts me for anything I'm not writing her back. What are your guys thoughts?
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Have you tried any other mode but texting?
When people move away it isn't uncommon for them to not have as much contact. But if she's totally ignoring your texts, that smells of shallowness.
Example: a friend who I had just became close to moved out of state. But we still text throughout the week and tell jokes and support each other. Occasionally we go a week or two without checking in, but we hear from each other regularly.
I would confront your cousin directly but compassionately. Obviously moving and getting a new network of friends and getting into the grove of a new city is overwhelming and time-consuming. But if she's totally ignoring you, that's not right. If she really cares about you, she'd at least be responding to a few of them.
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