Hi celticlonghouse,

My English is not very good so please excuse me if I cannot express myself well.

I understand and empathize with what you wrote but am not quite sure what specifically you mean by "safety." Perhaps I am just obtuse.

Are you referring to health safety or physical safety or some other kind or about all of this?

In your country are there not many bars and nightclubs where gay people meet and facilitate brief encounters? I think there are online hookup sites too.

There are things on the market to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. As to physical safety I am clueless. It seems there is always some element of risk. Perhaps I am wrong.

Although I am not in your exact situation, I have certainly had regrets about lost opportunities for relationships I had when I was a teenager.

Sometimes I wish I could go back to those times when I was that age but with the knowledge and experience I have now and "re-write" what happened or didn't happen.

Even now I have memories of a certain friend.

Maybe I am mistaken, but I imagine the number of people who experience this kind of regret is large. I imagine this group contains members of every race, religion, ethnic group, socioeconomic group and so on.

Hopefully others here will have better knowledge, experience and insight than I do and will be able to be more helpful to you.

I wish you only good things! -- Yaowen