i was in a similar relationship with a drinker and womanizer. it lasted for 20 years. my advise to you would be cut off all contact now and move on. start building a loving life with your child accepting the fact that this man will never be a good father to your child.

if you let it, this could go on for years with him coming and going out of yours and your childs life.

believe me, i know. my whole marriage was based on hope. hope that he would change. hope that he would eventually choose me. hope that he would be a good father to our son. my peace came when i finally had the courage to ask him to leave. it's been over 5 years now and we have become very good friends. he hasn't changed much, but that is no longer my problem. don't waste 20 years of your life waiting.